Marriage Tips and Ideas

Marriage Tips

Check out our collection of Marriage Tips from our weekly newsletters. There a many good ideas here. Why not try one today?

Especially for Valentine's Day--Have a Memory Lane Great Date!

Valentine's Day gets overbooked, so reserve ahead at your favorite restaurant. At dinner, talk about your own love story.

Talk about the Past
  • First time you saw each other
  • First date
  • First kiss
  • Favorite dates
  • When you decided to tie the knot
  • Wedding day
  • Honeymoon
  • Most romantic moments
Celebrating the Present
  • What do I like most about my spouse?
  • What is the best thing that happened to us in the last 12 months?
Looking Forward
  • What are some fun things we can do to build memories in the future?
Provided by the authors of  http://www.10GreatDates.org

Tips about the Power of Love and Respect

Watch this 2-minute video of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of the best-selling book and video conference, Love and Respect.

The Keys to a Loving Marriage: Communication and Attention

What does it take to build and maintain a loving marriage in today's busy and fast paced life?

The reality of pressures from daily living and work often don't fit within personal, family or societal visions of "the perfect marriage." This often puts couples in the middle of a firefight. In the midst of the hectic schedule, it is often the simple and practical things to do that escape them.

Growing and fostering a healthy marriage should include these essential components:

  • Consistent communication and romantic gestures that are maintained with both partner's needs understood and considered.
  • Understanding and accepting one another's faults.
  • Remaining supportive through efforts to learn from mistakes, rather than belittling or focusing on the negative.
  • Respecting each other's habits, hobbies, desires, etc.
  • Understanding and encouraging the independence necessary at times to grow as individuals as well as a couple.

    It is often said that "a marriage takes a lot of work". Perhaps it is better said in this way, "a marriage needs a lot of attention". The attention that two people give each other while falling in love should never really go away. While certainly the needs and demands of family and life are incorporated into a married couple's relationship, why would anyone replace the attention they gave to the love of their life, with attention to other things? And besides, it's fun!

    Taking a class, a workshop, or even an at home study for your marriage on a regular basis is crucial to experiencing a growing and loving marriage.

    Provided by Family Dynamics Institute: Learn more at: www.FamilyDynamics.net and www.SaveMyMarriage.com
    or call 800-650-9995

    Eat, Talk, and Play!

    EAT
    In our busy lives, all too often we don't make time for the most basic of social functions -- eating together! Be sure to make time to sit down together and share a meal for two. Try to even share the preparation -- and the clean-up! If you haven't got time to cook, how about a take-away, or a romantic meal at a local restaurant? Take the time to eat face to face, not in front of the TV!

    TALK
    What does your daily communication as a couple consist of? Organizing the family and home, questions about the kids, what needs to go on the shopping list? Or perhaps some of the big decisions of life -- whether to move, what new car to buy, your health or ailments? When was the last time you sat down and just talked about "you" -- the challenges of life, what's motivating you, what's dragging you down, how it feels to be you -- or perhaps your hopes and dreams for your future together? Make some time this week to sit down together just to "talk"!

    PLAY
    When we first fall in love, life always seems to be full of fun -- but as the years go by, sometimes we forget to play together! Why not make some time to do something together you both enjoy --something as simple as going for a walk, watching a movie together, taking a dance class, or spending an evening in your local pub or a jazz club. For the truly adventurous, think para-gliding or a zip line! Maybe just curl up together in front of a fire, and read stories to each other. Whatever it is, try and find something you can both take part in, and which will remind you of the fun times in your relationship!

    DOWNLOAD THE PDF: A simple way to reinvigorate your daily lives together! Read these 3 simple things you can easily and immediately do.

    Tips for a Great Date Night!

    Regular Date Nights with your spouse are proven to improve the quality of your marriage!

    Plan to go out to dinner next week, or do something fun—just the two of you— bowling, a museum, a local theatrical production. Keep the conversation positive and productive with these quick tips:

    1. Celebrate and Have Fun! 
      Tell your partner about one thing that first attracted you to them.

    2. Be Vulnerable and Be Grateful 
      Take turns sharing this sentence: "When I see the person you are, I am really grateful for your unique character qualities. I am especially grateful for your _____________ ,and I see that quality in you when _________________________."

      "(Affirm qualities such as diligence, understanding, dependability, generosity, compassion, supportiveness, thoughtfulness, helpfulness, caring heart, respectfulness, attentiveness, or encouraging spirit. Granted, your spouse will have weaknesses, but now is not the time to focus on those. Focus on affirming a strength or two.)"

    3. Celebrate Imperfections and Express Thanks 
      Take turns sharing this sentence: "I know that I can sometimes be _____________, but thank you for remembering today, that deep down, I really am a _____________ person. I love you."

      "(Your weaknesses might include being impatient, irritable, insensitive, preoccupied, oblivious, sloppy, compulsive, forgetful, etc. BUT this is not the time to remind your spouse of his/her imperfections. Agree not to brow beat the other person if they admit their weaknesses....but rather thank them for sharing, and thank them for their strengths. )"

    Quizzes & Ideas 

    "10 Great Dates to Energize your Marriage" by David & Claudia Arp 

    Do you remember early on, loving your spouse so much that your heart ached? Did you wonder what in the world could ever dampen your excitement? If you feel those emotions weakening, don't resign to the notion it's inevitable. That deep, soul-satisfying connection can (and will!) be yours again with this updated and expanded edition of "10 Great Dates to Energize Your Marriage", a proven plan to revive the awe and attraction that once kept you inseparable. Click here for more information.

    A Valentine's Great Date with "10 Great Dates"

    Put the sizzle back in your relationship with a fun Valentine Great Date! Claudia & David Arp, authors of the popular "10 Great Dates" book series, have put together a one-page dating guide that is sure to energize your marriage with fun, intimacy and romance! FREE download. Visit their website for more info: http://www.10greatdates.org

    Great Marriage Music

    There are very few really thoughtful songs about marriage. Chuck White has written the best. Click here to check out his songs now.

    Couple Checkup

    The price is normally $35 per couple and typically is reduced to $19.95 on www.couplecheckup.com during the week of Feb 7- Feb 14 in honor of National Marriage Week USA.

    Any couple (dating, engaged, or married) can take this nationally renowned "Couple Checkup" assessment, developed by PREPARE/ENRICH, which will generate a report for you about your relationship. This is a productive way to have a conversation and move forward with growth and change in ways to strengthen your marriage. Maybe use the results as a topic for discussion on a special weekend retreat or date night--even Valentine's Day!

    Take the Five Love Language Quiz!

    Take this free, simple quiz, based upon the New York Bestselling book, The 5 Love Languages® by Gary Chapman, with more than five million copies sold. The 5 Love Languages® has helped countless couples identify practical and powerful ways to express love, simply by using the appropriate love language. Many husbands and wives who had spent years struggling through marriages they thought were loveless discovered one or both spouses had long been showing love through messages that weren't getting through. By recognizing their different love languages, they witnessed the rebirth of the love they thought had been gone for good. Take this quiz and share it with your spouse to identify your primary love language. Click here.

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